Social media rules when dating

Whether we like it or not, social media like Facebook and Twitter is now an integral part of how to form and maintain relationships, so it is better to know the rules.

Over the past few years there has been incredibly high amount of people using social media to organize their social life and not only young people. 1 ?????? users are each social group; they are spread throughout the world, and are of every age — oldest Facebook user apparently is 101. Fastest growing demographic on the service, for at least the past two years, women over the age of 55.

Now an unusual find someone doesn't use Facebook or Twitter where it is bound to affect how we date; how do we get to know a person and the amount of information we reveal about ourselves in the early stages of a relationship. Given this radical change in how to configure and maintain relationships is important to know the rules so that it is an asset for life your dating rather than be a source of embarrassment.

Verify possible matches

Before meeting someone face to face, it is becoming common for games to ' Google ' each other first. This a simple matter of writing her name in Google and see what comes up. The Internet has a very long memory and anything that has been in the news, posted on Internet sites-including images-or comments on purchases from sites like Amazon and will reveal all. This can tell you a lot about a person, and is a useful tool when you're trying to prove that they are who they say they are.

Remember you can also be ' googled ' so it is important that you are aware of information online about you. To see only the type in your full name into Google search and press. If you discover any content you are not satisfied you can contact the site in question and see if you can remove it.

Remember:what is revealed on the Internet can be your first impression will get possible match so it is important to regularly check and be aware that online activity will stick for years-you have changed but you will get your history to know that if they are put off meeting with you what they see online.

Do some housework digital

Beyond what is revealed on Google search it's a good idea to trawl through pages of your social media and remove any photos or status updates or tweets would be uncomfortable with the match seeing. Instead, make sure that your security settings water tight if you want to be very special.  Try to view your pages through the eyes of a potential match-what is impression that you want to give?

Choose your friends carefully

It may be tempting to add someone to your friends list or your contacts before you even meet them-a useful social forum where you can get to know more about each other and chat online. Most people Facebook pages contain many personal information – pictures of loved ones; crash; workplace details – even phone number and your address if you've made them public to your friends. Obviously you do not want complete strangers to be able to access this information, so it is better to meet someone in person several times before adding them as a friend or a social network.

Keep real status updates

First and foremost, "not" change your relationship from ' one ' to ' in a relationship ' until you are sure that your date on the same page as you. Until then, ask them how they feel about you doing so perhaps – it is something you can do both on the same day – the first step towards a deeper commitment.   Whatever post online you need to ask yourself whether you are happy for an appointment to see it – will they get an impression of you?

Some people tweet, update status with every little thing that happens in their daily lives, and this is fine as long as you remember to avoid deportation when you're angry or upset or drunk – although it is very much a good rant better than talking to a friend of letting the whole world know your problems, especially if it is about your relationship.

Don't get addicted to your computer Internet forums are addictive and great contact surface but personally needed real work to build a relationship. Get some people so engrossed with their online they forget it's a tool used to stay connected not as a substitute for real relationships

Single women: it’s okay to look before you leap

Can’t believe I almost let Leap Day go by without making some mention of the only holiday that actively encourages women to proposition men. Oh wait, that’s propose to men. Gosh, I need to get those two straight one of these days. ; )

I actually wrote a column about this venerable holiday back in 2008 when I was doing the Single Shot column for the dearly-departed Seattle Post-Intelligencer.  The holiday (and the column) both came out on the heels of an infamous story in The Atlantic by Lori Gottlieb, entitled “Marry Him! The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough.” Here’s how it starts:

Happy Leap Day, everyone, especially all you single women.

Whether you know it or not, Feb. 29 is your special holiday, the one day every four years when you’re “allowed” to propose to a man.

And, no, I’m not kidding.

The whole thing actually started as a joke, back in the fifth century. As legend has it, St. Bridget asked St. Patrick if there could be one day out of the year when women could legitimately propose to men and he chose Leap Day. From then on, it has become what you might call a backhanded holiday, proffering a bit of independence for women but mainly poking fun at their predilection for wedlock.

Leap Day postcards from the early 20th century are rife with images of nervous bachelors being pursued by wart-nosed old maids and portly matrons, each with a hungry bridal gleam in her eye. “Help, they’re after me!” shouts a man being chased by a desperate female with one grossly oversized hand. “Rope him now or never!” reads another featuring a lasso-wielding bride on horseback.

Although they’re pretty horrible, these musty old stereotypes are also kind of a hoot. Except when you stumble across one in a current publication, such as The Atlantic, which is where I read Lori Gottlieb’s retrolicious “Marry Him! The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough.”

As you can imagine, reading Gottlieb’s arguments for marrying the overlooked “alcoholic who doesn’t always go to his meeting” just so you can have somebody in your bed (and bank account) every day and night didn’t sit too well with this happy singleton.

Would love to hear your thoughts on the matter if you’d care to share. If not, simply feel free to peruse this oldie but goodie (and yes, I’m talking about the column, not me) as you enjoy your extra day of fun and freedom. Take care and have a great Leap Day, people!

Should you buy your date’s kids presents?

Colleague and fellow relationship writer Theo Pauline Nestor contacted me a couple of weeks back, asking if I’d be willing to weigh in on the question of gift giving and the holidays. While there are always tons of stories out this time of year about what and when and if and how you should buy a gift for someone you’re just starting to date, Theo wanted to know what you do about your date’s kids.

Do you put on the old Santa suit and bribe the little darlings with the latest smart phone and Wii games? Or do you play dumb and pretend that your new main squeeze has no children (despite the cookie frosting and pieces of Pirate Booty in their hair).

Along with tapping me for advice, Theo turned to Rachel Sarah, author of Single Mom Seeking, Tina B. Tessina, psychotherapist and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again and others. Here’s how her story, which ran on Match.com’s online magazine Happen, starts.

As holiday shopping kicks into full gear, you might be wondering if “naughty or nice” should be the sole criterion for choosing the lucky ones that make up your gift list. Those actively dating single parents may be a bit perplexed about whether they should play Santa to their dates’ kids this holiday season. We’ve talked to dating experts, single parents and those who’ve dated single parents to get their insight on the subject, so read on and see how they’ve weighed in on this tricky question.

If you’re dating a single parent this holiday season, the first question to answer is whether it’s a good idea to buy any gift for this person’s child (or children) at all. Some experts and single parents think the answer to this question lies in the relationship you’ve already cultivated with your date’s child. “I think it all depends on whether you have any kind of relationship with the kids or not. Not every single parent is comfortable introducing a date to their kids — at least, not for awhile,” says Diane Mapes, author of How to Date in a Post-Dating World.

Click here to read the rest.  In the meantime, I’m curious as to who out there does buy gifts for their dates’ kids and if so, how long it took you to get to this point. For that matter, I’m curious about how long it took for your date to introduce you to their child. I’ve dated men who’ve told me they absolutely refuse to introduce a new woman to their little one for “a year or year and a half.” Other singles have told me about meeting the kid and the date at the exact same time.

So what’s been the norm with you? Or is it like everything else with regard to the dating world – there is no norm. As always, thanks for the read and happy dating (and happy holidays), people.

Are you Dieter spreadsheets?

Got an email the other day from some British magazine writer, asking me if I ever met anyone who might use Excel spreadsheet for dating. She will read one of the stories have been written about how to keep running your dates, I hope can I connect with Dieter spreadsheet.

I didn't think much of it until I got the Internet, I stumbled upon a myriad stories about axsilgati (sbridgati? datigati?), The most recent dating scandal to rock the online dating world.

Apparently, some poor sap again in New York (aka David Merkur, a 28-year-old with a bit of organization), erred in saying a woman was out with that keep all of his online dating in an Excel spreadsheet. And not just any table data — one that featured the names and email addresses, images, categories 0-10 for "appearance," comments on communications, and reviews for meet-ups, etc.

This in itself isn't exactly the most at the top. A bit wonky and anal, maybe, but not stupid. But after the request date de jour in Merkur if he would send her file (apparently, were both heavy Excel users), and he did.

When the paper began to hit the fan.

Date de jour instantly transmit detailed spreadsheet eerily a few friends, who sent it to their friends, so they ended up in its entirety on Jezebel, show ABC News today, "the Huffington Post", and who knows, maybe Portland sometime in the near future ("a spreadsheet on it!")

According to another, one of the many potential dates online Merkur's even consider legal action, against banking but against Miss trostoorthi, a woman posted a spreadsheet around, since they cause a lot of grief. Apparently, Miss trostoorthi redact any personal information such as real names, telephone numbers, email addresses, etc before she referred to, Oh, I don't know, her closest personal 6,000,000.

"I've got a lot of invitations from random people saying, ' Oh, you're 9.5 '," a woman said, "ABC News, referring to the high rating given to him by Merkur spreadsheet. "I think the guy is really nice," she goes on. "Never met him and I don't think he did a bad thing. Was ... In an attempt to keep himself and systems ... "For women that cheat sheet, though," why she would send it to the entire world? "Women need to know."It was a really dumb. My face is plastered everywhere now. I didn't find it. I was just thinking that you use Match.com. "

Needless to say, the brosbridshit movement dating now is gaining ground. In the New York Daily News "today, author" Kaplan "outed himself Porter and his obsessive dating habits, and admitted that he not only uses spreadsheet for dating, but" spreadsheets to track my finances, books I've read, the countries you've visited, where groups of friends dinner together. "

Not yet enough to use a spreadsheet — or pie chart or Venn diagram — but certainly I talked to highly organized types who either keep a spreadsheet or a special journal or Word document or some sort of cheat sheet to keep from getting firefighters and financiers mixed up (as if). If you are Dieter serious on the Internet (i.e., you're meeting new people at least three times a week), you have some sort of system even if skraol Sharpie on your Palm. Otherwise you can end forgetting names and professions or the fact that Grandma/sister/pet your date just died or celebrate the seventy-fifth birthday or are currently in dancing with the stars and eventually looking — and feeling — like a jerk.

Personally, I don't think it's especially creepy or DAUCHY to track information your dating — even subjective information "face nice wood" but "Gabi; one for me" (feedback from detailed notes Merkur 's). This is not a stranger to add excessive anal touches such as color coding, bold-faced type to indicate the prospects for especially hot.  The important thing is to make sure that your little black book — or spreadsheets a little black – remains safely tucked away on your hard drive, and your underpants drawer or your brain if you have confidence issues (which are now my guess many software engineers one men banking).

Unless, of course, goes viral with your love life part of your master plan for more dates. In this case, in my hat to you, "spreadsheet"! Way to work the system. ; )

Dating a younger man

The mailbox was humming today after a story I wrote a few years ago about dating younger men that have emerged on the Yahoo home page (widget originally appeared on the online game magazine, occurs).

In the story, I talk about the good, bad and ugly of Michael may/December Déby match-up. On the up side, dating someone young people helps keep young people (and Yes, usually big sex), though on the downside, can sometimes younger men Tres immature (Betty one GAL used to call her at 3 a.m., asking her over pizza).

However, my readers, a few additional ideas (mostly very positive) about life in some what like "Cougar town." Check 'em out:

I met my wife now 13 years ago when I was 20 and 43 and we started seeing more and more of each other (dating, I guess) when he was 24 after we found a lot of common interests. Even with a man, I knew early I didn't want children, but go through a mental struggle before I realised that I'm very selfish ... It was more interesting points in the article woman didn't want a man who was trapped in adolescence, so to speak. So I peak my 40s (69, still love in my life), I'm still that kid at heart, decision-making in favour of 20 years of age. My wife always telling me to grow up, but keep reminding them I am going to be 12 forever, so they'll have to grin and bear it. Just thought I would let you know how it does the relationship an older man/younger woman so well now in the next decade. -Michael

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This is a story I wrote about me, but changed the ending. Never was looking for younger men, but if someone didn't interest me, I don't really care about their age. When I started seeing Brian, he was 30 and 42. We started seeing each other in March and were married before June. And had moved to the small town where he grew up, where he knew everyone, and I think that his family and most of his friends thought it wouldn't work. In addition to the age difference 30/42, has a daughter 5 years old son was 18 years old. Additionally, it is Catholic and I'm Jewish. There are many things that could have gone wrong, but we will have our 22nd anniversary in June ... I don't know how we got to 22 [years], but I don't think our differences will be pulling us apart. Keep up your good work.  -Norma

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I have a few friends who married older women, and was with them for over 20 years. There is one thing you did not mention about their future together: their health. I have a friend who is now 60 and has been married to his wife, who is 80, for more than 20 years. It's still very vital and it can barely get around. It feels like is married to his grandmother. -Bruce

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I have been dating a woman 17 years my oldest for over 5 years now. I am 41. We met online, she didn't believe I was in my 30s until we met already. All I can say is dating older woman is amazing! First, because you're curious, amazing sex.  Can I keep it barely ... Secondly, there is no worry about the ticking biological clock, and Downer when dating a woman in her 30s. Thirdly, she knows everything about themselves, as they have eased and not worried about what her friends might say. Hell, her friends are jealous. -Steve

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So, what's the scoop with you, dear readers?  Have you ever dated someone much younger than you? Does it work? Not working? Cause you to question your sanity? Cause you to pull a groin muscle? Enquiring minds, as always, want to know.

My Q&A on dating with breast cancer

While I’ve been trying to keep most of my breast cancer stuff out, I was recently asked to do a Q&A for a website “where patients and caregivers get personalized, helpful, and accurate answers from experts, survivors, and partner organizations.” Since some of the questions they tossed my way had to do with dating and breast cancer — and living with breast cancer as a single woman — I thought it might be appropriate to post about it here. 

For those who might be curious, I’m all done with treatment now and am spending the next few months writing, recuperating and researching the next phase of my exciting cancer adventure: reconstruction. I’m also trying to figure out what to do with my new hair (it’s growing in much darker and curlier than it was before). And — who knew? — starting to realize there’s a whole segment of men who like really, really short hair. ; )

As always, thanks for stopping by and taking the time to read my thoughts on the single life and that crazy thing we all call dating.

How did you get started dating after breast cancer? What was the most difficult aspect?

Oddly enough, I never really stopped dating through my whole breast cancer ordeal. I had just started seeing someone when I was diagnosed and that relationship (which was rather tenuous anyway) bowed and finally broke under the pressure of the cancer and a host of other things. After that, I went out with a couple of other guys (and even reconnected with my ex for a bit) but most of my time and energy was spent on doctors’ appointments and tests and of course freaking out about my upcoming double mastectomy. I thought losing my breasts would mean the end of my dating life, my sex life, etc. But as it turned out, I recovered from surgery much faster than I expected (both emotionally and physically) and ended up going out on a date just two weeks after losing my girls. To read more, click here.

What advice would you give to other survivors about dating after cancer?
Dating after cancer isn’t really all that scary. Seriously, after being pumped full of poison and having our bodies blasted with radiation, I think most of us can fake our way through an hour or two of coffee and conversation with a potential love interest. Sex after cancer, on the other hand, can be a bit daunting. Especially if you’re missing some essential body parts. And all of your hair. And the feeling in what used to be your chest.

What worked for me was to try to “rebuild” myself (paging the bionic woman!), to put myself back together using a wig and fake boobs and makeup. That helped me feel like myself so I felt more confident going out there meeting and interacting with men. But everybody’s different so trying to “pass” may not work for everybody. And dating so quickly after treatment (or even amid treatment) may not work for people, either. I was lucky in that I only had four infusions of chemo and I seemed to endure it pretty well (as long as I took my meds, anyway). Same goes for radiation. To read more, click here.

As a single woman, where did you get the support you needed while going through cancer treatment?
I’ve been single for most of my adult life and have even developed a bit of a writing platform regarding the single life with a book (How to Date in a Post-Dating World), an anthology of essays (Single State of the Union) and a humor column (Single Shot), published by the now-defunct Seattle P-I.

For me, singledom is a natural state. Instead of being cloistered away as one half of a couple, I have a huge circle of friends — people I’ve worked with, people I’ve gone to school with, fellow writers, gal pals, neighborhood buddies, drinking buddies, old boyfriends, sources that turned into friends, the list goes on and on. I also have four sisters, all of whom I’m close with. I had so many people I needed to tell about the breast cancer, in fact, I eventually started an email newsletter (the Cancertown Gazette). And then a blog (http://doublewhammied.com/).

My sisters probably did most of the heavy lifting when it came to day-to-day support during my breast cancer treatment. They were there for me before and after surgery, even helping me with drain duty (and an apartment makeover). They also went to some of the early doctors’ appointments, when things were still very dark and raw and scary, talked with me daily via phone, sat through a couple of sessions of chemo (and chemo recovery) with me and prepared a ton of meals for my freezer. My friends were equally supportive, doing everything from bringing me food (pie! lasagna! homemade soup!) to giving me lifts to radiation to sending flowers and other gifts to taking me on weekend getaways. Friends and family both chipped in financially to help me pay for a wig made from my own hair (and those are not cheap). They also stayed in contact with me regularly, took me for walks when the chemo knocked the legs out from under me, and in general, made me feel loved and appreciated and cared for at all times. To read more, click here.

Machine domsdating

Maybe it's just me, but there's nothing I like more than a niche dating site, especially one that meets a mysterious chip from singles.

In the past, I've written about green dating sites like GreenSingles.com, which serves the crowd-friendly environment, and DarwinDating.com, devoted exclusively to the most beautiful people in the world. (Just checked the link to this one, and it no longer works — much to their motto "only the hottest survive.")

We've covered dating sites designed for older singles, dating sites for single parents dating site built just for boklovers and men.

Thanks to a recent CNN.com story, though, I may have stumbled upon the strangest place so far: the struggling singles sites. Check it out.

For people who spend every day in disaster preparedness – whether it is the end of the world 2012, economic collapse, collapse, hurricane or tsunami – it can be hard to find a compatible partner.

Canning venison, shooting firearms, living off the grid and create compost from human waste just isn't traditional interests many people look for when browsing from mainstream dating sites such as Match.com or aharmoni.

That's why the site is called "survivalist singles" has entered the dating scene online, specifically catering to this niche community of bribers, "activists" and "domsdayirs."

As it turns out, SurvivalistSingles.com (which has a cheery slogan "not face the future alone") is not the only site to those waiting with breath bitd (not to mention bunkers packed spam) to the end of the world as we know it. It also meets the requirements of PrepperDating.com and Kwink.com to "doomsday bribers" and "domsdayirs."

According to the CNN story, the average age in SurvivalistSingles.com more than 50 and men outnumber women two to one (shocking, I know).  Although the site is currently free, a woman who runs a thinking $ 5 membership fee per month in the coming days (there should be any number of days ahead).

So she has chosen the slogan: "finding love for less than the price of a box of bullets". (You have to admit it is catchy. I mean, how often do you find words of love and a bullet in the same sentence? outside the local crime headlines, that is.)

Now I know that things can get a little scary out there sometimes, especially in an election year. Not to mention the years where is survival-dystopian Festival such as "hunger games" biggest box office draw since, I don't know, "Apocalypse Now."

But no matter how bad things are (or how to get to the looming deadline of the Mayan calendar), I know I'm not ready to go to the hills with machine gun-toting domsdating, slaughtered deer, eating bean. In fact, as far as I am concerned, that would be the end of the world.

What say you? What is the strangest place you site – find a mate? We would love to hear your thoughts, folks. As you know, while there is still time. ; )

What’s new in the world of romance?

Incredibly, it’s February 14 today, otherwise known as International Quirkyalone Day. And oh, yeah, Valentine’s Day. To celebrate the holiday, I thought I’d throw out a few of the (hundreds) of fun stats and news items that have been stacking up in my email box since, oh I don’t know, Christmas.

Our survey says …
Pure Romance, a direct sales company specializing in relationship enhancement products and “intimacy education,” conducted some type of survey (although, they failed to provide any information as to who — or how many people — they talked with). Whatever the case, here are some of the tidbits they dug up about love, sex, V-Day, etc.

 Regarding Valentine’s Day …

27% of men said their romantic resolution this Valentine’s Day is to have sex with the lights on38% of people would buy themselves a sex toy because they’re single on Valentine’s Day80% of people believe they will be getting lucky this Valentine’s Day; less than 50% of people had good luck last year40% of women want to try something new and kinky this Valentine’s Day

 Hmmm … am wondering if  “new and kinky” might include “leaving the lights on.”

Regarding sex and relationships in general …

85% of women surveyed own a sex toyMore than 40% of people in a long-term relationship (3+ years) have sex at least twice a week57% of people in a new relationship (less than one year) talk about sex every dayFor better sex in 2012, 37% of men would be willing to gain 10 pounds but only 10% of women are willing to pack on the pounds for better sex

Wait, you can have better sex by gaining 10 pounds? Bring on the chocolate!

Missed connections … 
A PR representative from www.bestpr.net took the time to compile and send along the “Best Missed Connections Posts of 2012? from everybody’s favorite freak fest, Craigslist. Looks like the ads are from all over the country and some of them are pretty fun. Not to mention romantic, particularly this first one.

So … fess up. Are you the woman in the minotaur mask and underpants?

I felt like I was attacked by locusts: m4w (Burning Man): You: beautiful person in the tail end of a Snuffleupagus outfit on the playa. Me: Stilted clown hobo next to camp earth mad max 2046. We met in a sandstorm, and you poked your head out of the costume. It looked like the miracle of birth. I think you had rainbow hair, but couldn’t tell in the alkaline flats. Maybe 2 septum piercings? Maybe it’s the mescaline talking, but it would be nice to meet again. We never talked, but I think you saw me and the earth shook. Then I threw up in front of you next to the naked bicyclist orgy. Coffee???Midnight girl in PJ bottoms and slippers at Walgreens – m4w – 24 (lower Haight) You had blond hair and a turtleneck sweater. I had just woken up and was trying to remember what I had come in for. You were playing with the singing kung fu hamsters at the register waiting to buy your items. I was watching you from over by the Cheetos. I made some rustling noises with the bags to get your attention and we had a brief moment of eye contact before the woman started ringing you up. I made some more rustling noises with the chips but you didn’t look over, I started really going at it with a couple of Doritos bags hoping maybe you’d come investigate but you still didn’t look and walked out. I was going to follow you but I was unfortunately and unlawfully detained by a Walgreens employee before I could get out. Maybe we could meet at the High Tide some time?Minotaur, Halloween, downtown – m4w – 22 (Santa Cruz) You were a tall blonde girl wearing a creepy minotaur mask, walking down Pacific Avenue with the sexiest strut I’ve ever seen. It’s nice to see a girl that can actually walk in high heels. Given, you were in your underpants, but I think even if you’d been dressed more modestly it would have had the same impact. Just….damn.

Yes, this really is a new online dating site
Apparently, the current glut of online dating sites aren’t cutting it when it comes to “serious” relationship people. So now we have MarryMeAlready.com, a dating site “solely for people seeking marriage long-term relationships.”

According to the press release I received from this mom-and-pop dating operation, “when it comes to conventional online dating, separating recreational daters from those sincerely looking for love and meaningful relationships can be tricky.” People jump from person to person (literally and figuratively, I’m assuming) and “too many online daters are also looking specifically for one-night stands or casual relationships, which can be frustrating for someone looking for a real relationship and not wanting to waste time.”

Aside from being a 100% free dating site (albeit one that aspires to become a paid site one day), MarryMeAlready.com includes member spotlights (and no, we’re not talking about the type of member spotlights you might find on Grindr), video links, and personal blogs where you can include your laundry list of must-have qualifications for your future spouse and/or post pictures of your wedding dress/groom suit and china. (I’m assuming members have already planned the date and purchased the basics and are just looking to fill in a gap here or there).  

That’s it for me, folks. As always, thanks for stopping by for the read. Have a great Valentine’s Day everybody. You’re all sweethearts in my book!

Love camp

I recently joined a fitness camp. In the midst of addressing my love handles, I learned several principles of fitness that helped me better deal with love:

1. be consistent

All exercise of choice – will not work respectively, yoga, basketball, if not consistent. The same applies to the relationship. You have to work at it and give a consistent effort, and are committed to its success. Relationships just doesn't happen, just like muscles just doesn't happen. But work at it every day, and you will see positive results.

2. get out of your comfort zone

One of my favorite quotes is "If you want something you've never had, you have to do things you've never done." to get that dream body, cannot keep eating burritos, watch Jersey Shore marathons every day, regardless of how much you may love those things. Also, is the most effective weight training the past few where representatives feel uncomfortable more and push your muscles beyond their borders. In a relationship, if the things I've done in the past have failed you, you need to change it. If you normally shy or don't like to begin talks with the new people, you have to step outside your comfort zone and develop those muscles. Won't go to places not normally go, talk to people you normally; over time, it will become easier and more natural to you.

3. mix it up

At camp, we alternate between different exercises every 10 minutes, our workouts vary by day. Not only does this help us develop different muscles, it keeps us interested to participate and where we want to stick with it. In real life, can not only go to the movies and local burger joint for each date. Variety is the spice of life, and it keeps the new relationships. Experiencing something new with your significant other will allow you to continue to learn new things from each other, and help to keep things fun and exciting so it's easy to stay there for a long time.

4. find your balance

We often talk about balance in our camp boot and how to develop better balance results in fewer casualties and greater stability. In relationships, a general balance in life is crucial. And may help activities and interests and individual friendships to balance time and energy into your relationship. You will find more stability in your relationship if everything in your life depends on your significant other. Put all the happiness in the hands of someone else set up for failure – could this imbalance in "injury" from the heart.

5. partner

Especially for more challenging exercises, fitness trainer we have pairs we have our activities with a partner. Also, the fact that you have more chances of success in any activity if you embark on this with a partner. Is enriching many life when you have someone beside you share it with. In addition, you can learn a lot about yourself and how to be a better person when you interact with someone on a deep level and intimate. Initially, it may be difficult to open or develop yourself in a vulnerable position with someone. But the support, confidence and fun and love that comes with "partnership" priceless!

I leave you with the quotes below – fitness and love!

"I'm not telling you it's going to be easy. I'm telling you it will be worth it. "

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Love lessons from makeup artist

When you go on a date, you want to put the best face forward. So we asked a professional makeup artist Audrey Mendoza to show us how to create the appearance of a great date night. These beautiful and fresh, and super easy to do at home even if you are not a professional makeup guru! We love!

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9 questions to ask yourself before you get serious

For some people a relationship just moves onto a deeper level without any firm decisions really being made. But if you want to ensure you don’t drift into deep waters you might later regret, it’s good to take time to ask yourself some simple questions before you get too serious.

Are you on the same page?

You might think it is time to move on but does your match? This is the first thing to establish before you go any further. If the answer is ‘yes’ you can go on to talk about what ‘getting serious’ means for each of you.

Are you compatible?

The chances are that if you met on eHarmony then you are, but it is always worth talking things through before you make a big commitment. If you have very different political or spiritual aspirations they may not be affecting your relationship at the moment but they could potentially in the future.

Are your family and friends supportive of the relationship?

It is really important that a relationship is supported by the people closest to you. There will be all sorts of pressures on you as a couple in the beginning as you negotiate each others boundaries and you will both need support from outside the relationship from time to time.

How do you deal with conflict?

It may be that you haven’t had any disagreements between you or seen each other stressed or upset but sooner or later you will and it’s important that you feel that you have strategies for dealing with it and that you are not tiptoeing around, scared to upset each other.

Can you fulfil each others needs?

This might seem like a strange question but there are often things that go unsaid at the beginning of a relationship that it would be much better to have a conversation about. One of these is what each of you needs from the other in terms of love, time, commitment and support. By talking openly about what you need you will each have the chance to decide if you feel you can deliver before you go any further.

Can you trust them with difficult or private matters?

To move forward into a serious relationship with someone you should feel like you can trust them with your heart and be open and honest with them about things that you would normally keep private from other people. This can include things like your attitudes and habits about money and issues concerning sex and sexuality. We don’t normally talk about these things with friends or family but if you are going to get serious with someone it is important that you can with your partner. Talking openly about things helps to build trust and will help prevent conflict or misunderstandings from happening in the future.

Is your heart free to give?

The best reason to get serious with someone is because you really want to build a life with them because of who they are and how they make you feel. Far too often this is not the case. Sometimes people get seriously involved in relationships not because of what is happening in the here and now but to try and heal, or escape, from the hurt of something that happened in the past. If you are still hooked up on someone and using a new partner as a type of sticking plaster it is unfair as you are likely to be comparing them with your ex and may never really be fully committed if you believe they are second best.

Can you see yourselves growing old together?

Although it is important that you live in present you need to be able to fast forward a little and see yourself in the future with this person before you get serious. If you can’t see yourself together in a year, or 5 years because you know your plans are different from theirs it is ok to have fun while it lasts but keep it light and make sure you both know where you stand. Trust your instincts on this one. Take a quiet five minutes and allow yourself to really imagine being with this person for the rest of your life. How does it feel?

Are they your number one fan?

Before you get serious with someone ask yourself how you treat each other – is it with love, respect and consideration for each other’s feelings? Do you care about each other’s dreams and encourage and support one another? These are really important questions because they show the level of connection and trust that is already between you – when it is solid and you know they have got your back, and you theirs, the question of whether you should get serious or not becomes an easy one.

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4 dating myths dispelled

Sometimes our beliefs about dating can actually be holding us back and stopping us from getting the very thing we want so much. That’s because there are a lot of old wives tales out there that encourage people to believe in Disney romances or to enter relationships playing games and pretending to be someone else. We thought it was about time we dispelled some of these myths.

#1. You will instantly recognise ‘the one’

This myth is responsible for the fact that many people never get past looks – either in person, or in a photograph. Many online daters flick through their matches as though they are looking through a brochure waiting for ‘the one’ to be revealed. They say the camera never lies but actually all it is revealing is one dimension which was true for just one moment in time – usually a moment when someone was feeling quite self-conscious because they were having their photograph taken!

It is not your eyes that will necessarily recognise someone you are really compatible with – it is your heart. You will meet someone you feel completely at ease with; who makes you feel wonderful; whose touch makes you all tingly and who will light up your life adding new joy and meaning to every part of it. When you have all this it becomes almost irrelevant what they look like. Take a chance on someone today – you never know what you might discover!

#2. Online dating is inferior to traditional dating

Even though it is 2012 and most of our lives –  from food shopping to social arrangements and banking – are conducted online, some people are still a bit sniffy about online dating. They believe that love cannot be manufactured or organised, that it is all in the lap of the gods and all you have to do is be patient and it will find you. The truth is that if you work 40 hours a week in a single sex environment and spend your evenings and weekends caring for a family at home it is unlikely that love will come knocking at your door on Saturday night when you are in your PJs watching X Factor.

Online dating changes that. It brings a whole world into your living room and you can work on your profile, chat to matches and get to know people all from the comfort and safety of your home. You will get to know much more about people by meeting them in this way than you ever would if you met them in a bar. It is like going to a party and all these potential matches are there and you are free to talk to as many or as few as you please – for people who don’t get much chance to go to parties, are shy about approaching people in that situation or want the piece of mind of having the support of eHarmony staff and the full profile of a person before they meet them – online dating isn’t inferior,  and puts you in the driving seat of one of the most important areas of your life.

#3. It is ok to bend the truth to catch your date

This myth is perpetuated in many popular dating books but our advice is that whatever the subject, whether it is how old you are or how many previous lovers you have had, honesty is the best policy. If you are serious about wanting to build and maintain a healthy and lasting relationship then it is important to remember that from your very first contact with someone you begin building the foundations on which that relationship will be built. If these foundations are riddled with lies or half truths – even small ones like saying you can speak a foreign language when you can’t – then there will always be cracks in these foundations. You don’t have to reveal everything about yourself on a first date but don’t make things up to fill the gaps.

#4. Treat them mean, keep them keen

Don’t play games with people’s emotions. It simply isn’t fair or justified and is unlikely to get you the secure loving relationship that you want. By all means don’t be available for dates and to chat online 24/7 – not to be mean to a date but so you can get on with your life and so that there is space for you to miss each other. Apart from that treat people just as you would like to be treated – with respect.

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Guys; how to avoid fashion blunders on a date

So you’ve managed to get the girl you’ve been eyeing up to agree to go on a date with you. And now the next step: what do you wear? Are your beaten up Converse okay? If they come back to your place will she approve of your novelty t-shirt collection? Best to hide that stuff…and read on to figure out your date outfit!

For starters, let’s try to avoid the top 5 mistakes that guys make:

1. Bling.  Avoid any flashy logos, over-the-top jewelry or watches. Unless you’re interested in a gold digger, that is. Keep it understated and contemporary.

2. Too tight clothing. If you don’t have the body of a Greek god, it doesn’t look great. If you do have the body of a Greek god, it looks pretentious.

3. Too much cologne.  A little bit of aftershave goes a long way!

4. You’re a mess.  There is a difference between a slightly scruffy, vintage look, and being a complete mess. Above all, no sportswear or clothes that you chill out in. You need to look like you’ve bothered and you only get one chance to make an impression!

5. Hats. Just no. Especially inside.

So now let’s look at what you should be doing:

1. Get the balance right. What is the atmosphere like where you are going? Is it smart or casual? Don’t overdress (try hard), or under-dress (apathy). Don’t listen to your mates – you need to look great but feel at ease at the same time.

2. Wear decent shoes. Avoid trainers and flip flops, and make sure they’re polished. Try these for size:

- Egton Brogues – Grenson, £360

- Suede Tassel Loafers – Topman, £46

- Classic Boat Shoe – Timberland, £100

3. Pick a nice shirt or polo shirt. She’ll be a sucker for a guy in a shirt, it looks like you’ve made an effort. Make sure it’s ironed though. How about one of these:

- Plaid Shirt – Woolrich, £16

- Gingham Shirt – Paul & Shark, £110

- Striped Shirt – Topman, £28

- Check Shirt – Ted Baker, £80

4. Personality. Wear colour, by all means, but wear colours that suit your complexion. Don’t go over the top with crazy patterns and logos.

5. Work attire. If you’re going for drinks after work, remove your tie and undo the top 2 buttons.

And finally, some etiquette tips:

DO:                                                                                    

- Pay her a compliment

- Offer to pay the bill

- Put your phone on silent

- Listen and reflect on what they say

DON’T:

- Monologue – spend equal time talking

- Let her organise the first date

- Talk about exes (obviously)

- Drink too much, even if you’re nervous!

7 great thrifty dating ideas

There is no shame in having to tighten your belt a bit – most of us are having to do it to some extent. That is no reason to scrimp on your dates though; you might just have to be a bit savvier in what you do; where you go and how you pay. Here are our top seven great date ideas for dates that will give you all the fun without breaking the bank.

1.      Collect discount vouchers

There are loads of companies like Groupon and kgb deals that offer huge discounts for local restaurants and services. All you have to do is sign up for free and you will receive daily emails of the offers available in your area.

2.      Have a dinner party – for two

Instead of a take away pizza or quick supper dig out your best crockery, candles and romantic music and go all out to create an evening to remember in your own home. You don’t have to be Jamie Oliver to be able to create a stunning home cooked meal and it doesn’t need to cost the earth either. The time and effort you go to is worth so much more than handing over a credit card in a flashy restaurant.

3.      Go dancing

Back in the day most romances started on the dance floor and there is a revival afoot in all types of dancing styles from jive to the tango helped greatly by the popularity of programmes like Strictly. Dances are open to complete beginners as well as the more experienced and are usually held in church halls and community centres so are cheap to attend and lots of fun to do together.

4.      Talks and lectures

In most cities and towns around the country free talks and lectures are being given on a huge variety of subjects. Whatever your interests there is bound to be something that would appeal to you and your date. Best of all, you will learn something and have plenty to talk about afterwards!

5.      Magical mystery tour

Sometimes the best dates are those that are unplanned and spontaneous. Whatever you preferred mode of transport it is very romantic to pick your date up and take them off somewhere without any clear plan of where you will go. You might decide to drive west for an hour; stay on the bus for 10 stops; catch a train to a place you like the sound of but know nothing about or pick a destination by closing your eyes and sticking a pin in a local map or cycling or walking to anywhere neither of you have visited before.

6.      Play it again ….

Musical tastes reveal a lot about who you are as a person and a date that is sure to bring you closer together as a couple is to share your favourite tunes – maybe in the style of Desert Island Discs where you link each tune with a memory associated with it.

7.      Eating out

There is no need to skip the traditional meal out because you are dating on a budget but consider some of these options which won’t break the bank.

Sushi – Every town or city has a sushi bar now and they are bright, fun and affordable. If you have never tried sushi it really isn’t all raw fish. They have a huge range that will suit any budget.

Afternoon tea – this is a romantic choice that is perfect for a first date. Hotels are often the best choice as you will get silver service in beautiful surroundings. It is often much cheaper than an evening meal.

All you can eat – perfect if you and your date have a hearty appetite and you don’t want to worry about the rising bill as you work your way through five courses. All you can eat places often serve foods from a number of nationalities typically Chinese and Indian. For one set price you can have as many dishes as you like and that includes a desert menu too!

Redeem a voucher – Lots of high street restaurants have teamed up with big names like Tesco Clubcard and Groupon to give you huge discounts. Be discreet about using a voucher to pay part of the bill (vouchers only cover the food not the drinks) but certainly don’t be embarrassed if it means you can wine and dine your date somewhere you wouldn’t otherwise be able to afford.

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10 brilliant first date questions

The chances are you will have learnt quite a bit about your date from their profile and from chatting to them online so when it comes to the first date you may worry that you won’t have much more to talk about. Although it is good to talk about yourself, the first date is also a time to get to know your date and the way most people do this is by asking questions. You don’t want to bombard your date with loads of questions as though it is an interview or inquisition but it is good to have one or two to fall back on if the conversation dries up.

1.      On your profile you said …..

Before you get to your first date you will have learnt quite a lot of factual information from your date’s profile and any online communication you have had. The date is the time to begin getting to know the real person rather than just information about them – to hear them talk about the things they are passionate about and the people that are important to them. Follow up on the things that initially attracted you to them and ask them to tell you more – it will show you are interested if you remember key points about them.

2.      Has any book or film had a big influence on you?

Questions like this are good because they have universal appeal – everyone has books and films that have influenced them and you will have your own experience to share. Talking about personal tastes reveals things about personal beliefs but they are easier to talk about in general terms.

3.      If you could have any job in the world what would it be?

This is a great question because it allows the focus of the conversation to be on your dreams and an aspiration which makes people feel good. You will get a chance to see what your date’s drive and motivation for work is – money, status or service – and this will tell you a lot about them as a person and whether your values might be compatible.

4.      Where do you feel most relaxed?

Knowing how someone relaxes will go a long way towards revealing what other interests they might have that aren’t revealed on their profile and whether they are a high or low energy person.

5.      What personal accomplishment are you most proud of?

On a first date you want to keep the conversation light and asking questions about someone’s past can sometimes lead to them revealing all sorts of unhappy or painful things especially with regard to past relationships. Frame questions about the past with a positive spin. There will be time for deep, meaningful revelations later on.

6.      Which three people would you invite to a dinner party and why?

These people can be alive or dead and from any period of history. It is a great topic of conversation because it leads down lots of different avenues. Remember if you ask the question you should be prepared to answer it yourself.

7.      If there was one animal you could save what animal would it be?

This question reveals something about the person’s nature. Many people love animals and this is an unexpected way to get into a conversation about what their favourite animal is as well as deeper environmental issues if they are important to you.

8.      What is an attractive quality about you that people don’t immediately see?

This is a good question for someone who hasn’t been very forthcoming about themselves and could be a shy or lacking in confidence in the dating environment. It is a gentle way of getting them to talk about themselves.

9.      What is one thing about you that might surprise me?

It could that a big burly bloke can make a rose out of fondant icing or a petite delicate woman has a black belt at Karate – whatever it is, it is a good topic for conversation.

10.  Would you like to meet up again?

If you don’t ask you won’t know and if you are the sort of person who can’t bear to be left wondering whether they will call or not it might be better to come right out and say it.

Listening is just as much part of the art of conversation as talking so make sure you practice that too. Be prepared to answer any questions you use yourself as the chances are they will be turned back to you.

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The 5 worst flirting mistakes you can make

Flirting is one way we let someone know we are interested in getting to know them better.  If we didn’t flirt we would have to rely on outright declarations of attraction to someone which could meet with humiliating rejection, something we all want to avoid. Flirting is also playful and isn’t confined to those we want to have a relationship with. It can be done anywhere and with anyone  – a bit of gentle banter with the postman or a cheeky wink to the girl who works in the supermarket can make someone’s day and make you both feel good. It is all good practice for when you are on dates but you need to be careful and avoid these common mistakes.

1.      Coming on too strong

Flirting can be a fun and playful way of connecting with someone and it is best when it is kept subtle. Being overtly sexual or making lewd suggestions when you have just met someone is likely to get you the opposite of what you want.

If someone gives you no indication that they are interested then back off rather than coming on even stronger. You don’t want the humiliating experience of being asked to leave them alone so learn to read other people’s body language and be responsive to it. Remember the most effective flirting tactic you can deploy is to smile into someone’s eyes – and mean it.

2.      Inciting jealousy

If someone has a partner with them, whether it is a long term partner or a casual date, do not flirt with them – they are taken even if only for that evening. It is bad form to step on someone else’s patch and flirt with their date while you are both at the bar – how would you feel if someone did it to you? You also might end up in a confrontation with an angry wife or an irate boyfriend so before your launch into your best charm routine make sure the object of your attention is not with anyone.

3.      Flirting at work

It happens all the time but there is a real danger that flirting at work can seriously backfire, especially if it is with your boss. Other colleagues may misinterpret it as you trying to use your sexuality to get a raise or promotion and will dislike you as a result. Worse still, if you are not sensitive to the STOP signs and carry on flirting with someone when your attention is not welcome then you might find yourself with a sexual harassment charge.

4.      Teasing

There is a fine line between flirting and giving someone the come on: one thing no-one likes is a tease. It is unfair to play with someone’s emotions and give them the impression that they are on to a good thing if you have no intention of following through. Light flirting can quickly become serious and more intense and you need to know when to back off if you don’t want the situation to get heavy. Playing with someone in this way could lead to you having to deal with their anger and frustration.

5.      Taking it too seriously

Flirting is fun. You will flirt and people will flirt with you, maybe the barman at the local always touches your hand when he gives you your change, or the woman at the gym always winks when she sees you. They may well be giving you the green light and if you are interested you may decide to pursue it a little further only to find that they do that with everyone. Not everyone who flirts with you will be interested in having a relationship with you and an essential part of engaging in the art is to not get too attached to everyone who flirts with you.

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Dating after bereavement: the first steps

According to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her book on death and dying there are five stages to grief-  denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Not everyone will go through them in the same order or even experience them all – grief is a highly individual process. The important thing to remember is that only you can know when you feel ready to move on and date again and although others may advise you to do it sooner you need to trust your own heart. When you are ready here are some suggestions for the first steps in the process.

Take it slowly

There is no rush. When you start noticing that your thoughts are turning more towards the future than dwelling in the past you could start by browsing profiles of people who you think might be suitable matches. If even this innocent activity makes you feel guilty or disloyal then it may be that you have not fully accepted your loss yet. In the stages of grief acceptance is the one which is usually the key to being able to move on and create a life with someone else. It is at this stage that people start being able think of their deceased partner with gratitude for the years they had together rather than anger, guilt or regret. Acceptance allows people to appreciate that although the relationship wasn’t perfect (no relationships are) they did the best they could at the time – if they had known their partner was going to die they may have done differently.

Talk it through

When the time comes it can be useful to talk to other people who were also close to your partner about the prospect of you dating again. These conversations can be very useful as they will give you a chance to talk about the person who died and discover how others are feeling about it – this is especially important if there are parents, children or grandchildren involved. You may find people are surprisingly supportive and encouraging and this can help you to move forward because you won’t be worried about upsetting other people.

Sometimes widowed people don’t tell relatives until after they have already met a prospective new partner and then get hurt and upset because they don’t get support. This often isn’t because people object to you having a new partner so much as them believing that you haven’t taken their feelings into consideration. Bereavement leaves people feeling very fragile and vulnerable especially children who lose a parent.

There is a fine balance to be struck between being open and considerate and at the same time not allowing other people’s feelings to dictate your life. Talking to them before you do anything on the dating front will at least prepare them for the possibility of you being with someone else even if they don’t like the idea very much.

Don’t look for a replacement model

No-one will ever be able to replace your lost partner – they were unique and so was your relationship with them. When you are thinking about what you want from a new relationship try to be forward thinking – look at what you want and need in your life now and in the years to come. Are there things that didn’t happen in your previous relationship that you would like to experience? Maybe you want to travel more or learn to dance. Whatever it is now is the time to look forward and fulfil those dreams and ambitions so you don’t get to the end of your life wishing that you had experienced more.

You can change your mind

You may start the dating process and realise that you are not quite ready – that is ok. Give yourself more time, keep talking to friends and family and maybe try again in a few months time. Sometimes we get stuck in grief because there are unresolved issues that we can’t talk to family or friends about. It you feel you are stuck and unable to move on it may be worth contacting a bereavement counselling service such as Cruse (helpline 0844 477 940) where you can talk to someone in confidence who has also been bereaved and who will be able to offer vital support and understanding.

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Find your dating style

AppId is over the quota AppId is over the quota Not everyone wants to stay up and dance all night or gaze into each others eyes over an expensive meal. How you prefer to get to know someone will be unique to you so adapt your dating style to suit.

Just as everyone learns things in different ways everyone gets to know people in their own way. For some it can be long email conversations while for others it will be through shared experiences. Many people have never really considered the question so end up going on dates that are unsatisfactory because they feel like they didn’t connect with the person they were with. As that is the whole point of a date it is worth finding out your unique dating style.

Where did you meet your friends?

Are you the kind of person who makes new friends all the time or have you had the same friendship group for years? Where did you meet these people and how did the relationship develop? Lots of friendships are made because of shared interests – maybe you enjoyed the same sport or hobby and met at a class or maybe it was down the local pub on quiz night.

Examining your friendships can give you some vital clues as to your dating style. If your friendships have deepened through cooking and eating together then a restaurant date would be ideal for you because you are used to developing intimacy over the dinner table. If you are more of a pub quiz person it shows that you like to have a shared interest and develop intimacy that way.

Energetic or sedentary?

How do you like to spend your time and where do you think you are at your best? For some people this will be when they are at home, relaxed and in their own environment while for others it will be when they are out walking on the hills with the wind in their hair. You want your date to see you in your element but you can only do that if you know what your element is. Feet up, watching a film in the dark is for some people a great way of connecting with someone while for others they will want to see how their date is when they are engaged in a physical activity like dancing.

Participant or audience?

Do you like to be the centre of attention or do you prefer to sit on the sidelines while someone else is the star of the show? If you are uncomfortable being the centre of attention an intimate dinner can feel intimidating but a night at a play or in a comedy club might suit you much better as there will be many chances to talk before and after the show and in the interval.

Planned or spontaneous?

Do you like to have everything planned ahead of time down to what you are going to wear and how long you are going to be out? Many people blossom more when they feel everything is under control because then they can let their hair down because they don’t have to worry about what they are going to eat or how they will get home.

For others this kind of control and planning is stifling and stops them from being their natural, spontaneous selves. They like to just meet up in town and see where the wind blows them. This can be a lot of fun but it really won’t suit some people. It is always best to check with your date – often dating styles can appear to be incompatible but with a little compromise on both sides you may find that you are compatible as people – opposites can attract and both ends of the spectrum have their advantages.

Face to face or the written word?

How do you communicate best? For some people it will be the face to face sitting up talking late into the night that really seals the deal on a date but for others it will be epic emails or regular texts. How do you prefer to communicate with the people closest to you? If the answer is in writing make your date’s fun shared, experiences and then write them a long email saying what a lovely time you had.

Knowing yourself, and your dating style can be a great advantage and will give you the best chance of connecting with someone.

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Frugal dating tips for tough economic times

Love doesn't have to take a back seat in tough economic times. On the contrary, you put a little bit of creativity will once again in the driver's seat, and you'll have fun doing something different from the usual dinner and movie!

Let's start with dinner-what is it exactly that makes going out for a fun dinner? There is the novelty of going to a new restaurant or familiarity and comfort to my favorite place to go. There in anticipation of getting out, getting ready, out of the House, experiencing the buzz and energy of people and conversations around you, and of course, walking back to the car and go home feeling like you've done something more with your time than sit on the couch watching TV.

But more importantly, there is a conversation with your people – get to know them and exchanging experience and having fun. But this experience comes at a price! It's certainly fun to eat sushi or verify this new burger place fancy, but it'll cost you. If you're on a budget, you will find yourself not going out more often if after payment for dinner, drinks, tax, tip, dessert etc it eats your budget entertainment full month, or worse, put you in debt! That my friend is not a recipe for romance.

So what is the answer? It's simple – coffee! Or tea. Either will do. But, really can take place for dinner? Well, think about it – if you take the time to find a funky Cafe with comfortable seating, you with your honey, what's not to like? You still have the layout as you would with a restaurant, are you still going — to a new part of the city that has not been explored by may. You're at the table along with a lot of people and couples around you, just like other restaurant. People can watch and listen and gossip about people and talks about you in the same way as you would if you were in one of those places where he ends with the Chief on the table waiting for you to pay. You can talk and joke and stare into the eyes of the other party in the same way.

The only difference that two of coffee will cost you about $ 5 even in fancy cafes "expensive" and want you to part with more of the tip alone go even moderately priced restaurants! Just don't get tricked into getting a latte-you're on a budget, aim to be able to come up with your honey to the maximum extent possible, and don't pay for the cafe on a trip to Europe. Coffee is best deal, so stick with it. When you get better times, out of lobster – twice a day even. But until then, don't be close, eject your beloved and have fun!

Hope you find this post useful! Publish here, next time I'll discuss how to derive all the fun of going out on a date for the first run movie Imax 3D--again, without breaking the Bank.

About the author: Aleks auniszczak followed his advice on dating, ended up happily married, living in San Francisco serves as engineer question and answer in zosk. Being Canadian, Poutine, snowboarding and universality in health care.

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Communication is key: what you say and how you say it!

Misunderstandings happen all the time between the partners. So far it's one of the issues that can be easily avoided! Everything you need to know how to communicate effectively. Here are some tips on how to become better at it and, in turn, become a better partner:

1. choose the appropriate time and place to talk, when you have all the time and prepare a special sector. If only you had an argument, make sure it allows you time to cool down and think about this issue. Try to communicate effectively while still angry usually a bad idea and not try to solve the issue through texting!

2. first seek to understand, and only then to be understood. Try to put yourself in their shoes for a different perspective. Be open and try to see the situation the way you see.

3. be aware of how you say things. The tone is very crucial. Use "I" statements like, "I felt sad when I ..."

4. think of your partner as someone who is very sensitive. Even though they may not appear in outside, and your partner have emotions! Always be kind with your words, respectful, polite.

5. don't make assumptions. You're not a mind reader! So ask your partner how you feel the person if you are unsure.

6. avoid control result. Learn to be able to make concessions on an equal footing, with respect for the wishes and values of each other. WINS possible!

7. stay positive! Misunderstandings happen for everyone. Usually little issues that can be resolved. Not blow minor issues out of proportion but address them if they bother you because they usually lead to something bigger.

Remember, you and your partner team. If you keep these tips in mind when connecting, you will be able to overcome any challenges together and come out with a closer bond and love and understanding more.

Do you have further suggestions to maintain romantic trip in the training course? Share them with us in the comments section!

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5 signs she’s just not that into you

In normal life it can be quite obvious if a woman gives you the brush off because she probably won’t go on a date with you in the first place but in the world of online dating things can be a bit more complicated. You may get on great online and have been matched because you are highly compatible. You may even have a couple of pleasant dates but things just don’t seem to be progressing. You get the sense that she is not that interested but how can you tell for sure?

1.      Body language

Learning to read body language is a useful skill when dating because it can often tell you more than words alone will. Experts say that about 80% of our communication is non-verbal so even if a date is sitting in front of you, you might get a sense that they are not really ‘there’. Some of the signs of this are lack of eye contact – she seems to be looking anywhere but at you, often seeming more interested in what is going around her than in what is right in front of her; crossed arms and legs and shoulders hunched forward all indicate that someone is shut down to the possibility of engaging with you rather than being open and welcoming.

2.      Its in her kiss

If things go well and you end the date with a goodnight kiss you can often tell by how open and responsive she is to your advances. Some people are more inhibited than others and the first couple of kisses can be a bit awkward for anyone. If you keep dating though and her kisses don’t get gradually more responsive, or if she avoids those moments when you would naturally kiss, she might be trying to tell you something.

3.      Flaky timekeeping

Some people are just late all the time but there is a difference between that and someone who doesn’t put your dates in her diary, forgets to call you back and always seems to have to be somewhere else so dates are rushed and unsatisfying. Time is the first and most important thing we give to someone when we want to form a relationship with them so if she can’t spare the time for you the chances are she’s not that into you.

4.      Its all about her

When you are together does she show an interest in you and your life or does most of the conversation revolve around her? After time, attention is the next thing that we invest in a potential relationship. Women form intimate connections through conversation, sharing of feelings and if they are really interested in having a relationship with you the majority will want to get to know all about you – sometimes more than you are willing to share – straight away. If she doesn’t show an interest it’s probably because she isn’t interested.

5.      She is still dating new matches

When people meet online it is not uncommon for them to be dating a number of different people at the same time. This is a good idea because rather than putting all your eggs in one basket you keep your options open and meet as many of your matches as you can. After a few dates you either stop seeing the person, realising that it is going no-where, or commit to start seeing them exclusively. If you are dating a woman for weeks or months and she is still meeting new matches, and going on dates with other men, it is likely that she is just keeping you hanging on until something better turns up.

Try not to be disheartened if you have been seeing someone who is like this – people can sometimes be unscrupulous and might rather have someone they aren’t that into accompanying them on nice dates rather than be home alone on a Saturday night. Let her go, put it down to experience and move onto someone else with your dignity in tact.

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